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The HEXACO essay
HEXACO is a theme that he wrote about in a video about 2 years ago. WIKI about HEXACO
The most important subject is about reading people or reading yourself. They call it EQ. Emotional Quotient. It's the most important thing in the world understanding anxious-avoidant attachment style and understanding Dark Triad or HEXACO.
It's nuts that this isn't taught in the modern school system. I don't think it was like this 100 years ago. I think people were more sane because back then families were eating all three meals together, parents stayed together, people lived on quiet farms, people had practical common sense.
We live in this world like ghosts... we have become disembodied. A ghost is not attached to anything physical. It's just floating and that's how people are in life. You just graduate high school and you think you're just gonna float into a good job or a good marriage with financial security.
You won't. You will float into disaster and misery.
The only thing you should be focused on is trying to figure out is how life works.
How Does Life Work?
People ask me what I do for a living I'd say I'm trying to figure out life by interviewing people and I interview scientists and I test things myself on health, wealth, love, and happiness.
Here are some things I learned:
Health
I had this appointment the other day with Dr. Kim. I asked him about if humans will live to 700 years old. He said there are good scientists that are literally figuring our DNA. There's so many things working against us. He says there are things like oxidative stress, there's natural mutations in our DNA that we have in our body from birth that grow as we age that basically they exaggerate and eventually get cancer and die or something. There's cortisol levels from imposed stress being in traffic and having a horrible relationship with somebody or having a deadend job just to name a few.
So that's health off the top of my head.
Wealth
You gotta decode the game of life when it comes to money.
Money doesn't come to you. There's no human in history that's "like you're not gonna believe this time I knew nothing about money, nothing about investing and I made a fortune!".
Well, I shouldn't say there's no people... there are people that win the lottery, especially with crypto recently. There have been people who just randomly put a hundred bucks into crypto and made a good amount of money for themselves.
If you put a hundred bucks in a crypto, you'd have like five hundred million bucks last time I checked. If you've put money in early enough like pre-2010, then you'd have over 100 mil. At least that's what the calculation was at $2200 per Bitcoin. Right now BTC is about floating around $10,000-20,000.
So yes one-in-a-million or one-in-a-hundred-million people win the lottery of life, but very few people do. So if your financial plan is to win the lottery, then no. You're gonna be broke.
And we see in the United States the average person saves only 1-2% of their income which means out of the average $50,000 income the average person is only saving $500 a year. Maybe $1000 or $2000 after taxes. This is a disaster. We're just disembodied from reality.
Love/Social
And then you get into social relationships with people. Not one class I ever had in high school was on practical psychology. Zero. I dropped out of college and no one ever told me in school that you could assess people with the dark triad score.
No one told me you can find out if a person is highly neurotic or if this person's highly likely to lie to you. I never heard of that.
But, that test has been around for twenty years. Some other tests have been around 50 years.
Happiness
When it comes to happiness, people know nothing. We were taught nothing about how to attain happiness. It's just like "oh be a good person you'll be happy." No you won't. You've got to learn to manage anxiety. You have to learn to manage stress.
These are things that you have to learn just like how you learn how to read how to do the multiplication tables...
I'm Worried About Us Humans
I'm telling you the older I get the more I'm worried about us humans, myself included. I'm just like, am I real or is this like a joke?
You know is it like how the Greeks and Romans how they believed in these gods that sit above us like Zeus or Thor or these Norse Gods. There's all these Norse Gods like Thor... you had Freyja which is like the goddess of love, you had Odin, and you had all these people.
Well sometimes I feel like that I'm like are there gods sitting up there laughing at us?
They're like "Oh watch the cycle repeat. Bob is an alcoholic he's gonna marry a dysfunctional woman. He's dysfunctional and dysfunctional people usually attract each other she's gonna marry him, they're gonna have kids and those kids."
And they're gonna just watch it like it's a joke.
They just watch how the pain cycle is on repeat like "Oh see this person who's born poor they're gonna give birth to kids they're gonna teach them nothing about money and their kids are gonna be poor" and just laugh at it.
I mean I know that's probably not how it is but I could see how the Greeks came up with that. Like Zeus is up there laughing and occasionally they step in and I'm just like... is this how the game has to be?
Maybe that's how the game has to be nowadays. Maybe there's some sort of conspiracy. I'm not a big conspiracy theorist. I don't think it's an overt conspiracy, but I know wealthy people don't care. You think they really care about people in the ghetto? No. They care about themselves and their kids.
I live here in Beverly Hills now and these kids go to nice private schools although half the kids don't know how to create wealth themselves but apparently their dad's not like, "Hey son let's go to the inner city and teach people how to invest in real estate like we did." No.
They can teach their kids, maybe. Half the parents don't even transfer what they know to their own kids. So here we go with the disembodied human. We're ghosts floating doomed to the repetition.
But maybe there's a solution.
This is why I talk about maybe there's a chance. Maybe we can enlighten ourselves or each other by studying the tactics and the techniques of the outliers. You've got to study outliers that's something we don't learn about.
Like we don't ask ourselves why people like the Dalai Lama so great?
If they put him on an fMRI machine why does he have such lower stress. What's this man doing so well. We know he meditates 3 to 6 hours a day. Probably not practical for everyone to do that, but maybe it's like maybe we should try it.
There's an app called Headspace. Maybe we should all be on Headspace for 15 minutes a day. Why don't they implement that in our modern school system?
Guided Meditation and Mindfulness - The Headspace App
https://www.headspace.com/headspace-meditation-app
Meditation has been shown to help people stress less, focus more and even sleep better. Headspace is meditation made simple. We'll teach you the life-changing skills of meditation and mindfulness in just a few minutes a day.
You know there's all these school shootings, maybe if you took 15 minutes out of the required curriculum we go through everyone would be a little more peaceful. People are learning nothing at these schools.
If you want to argue with me on this, I will go through any country in the world and you bring me anyone. I don't care what country you're from. Let me quiz your students on practical life things. Do they know how to repair credit, do they know how to buy a house, or do they know how to do their taxes?
Do they know how to start a business? Do they understand marketing or persuasion? No. They're all going to fail.
Some people go "Oh, America's so far behind now they're all gonna fail." I've been around the world to 50-60 countries and there's no place where I feel like everybody is fully equipped with the right tools.
Everybody's doing the same educational system just with a slight variations.
People seem to think Finland is the model country. Model country my ass. I've been to Finland, no offense to Finland, it's not worse than America but it's not better. It's all the same curriculum.
You think Asian people are so smart and Americans are so stupid? Where's the Nobel Prize coming out of Asia? No offense to Asians but Asians are stuck in the same modality of teaching as the rest of us: lecturing.
Only A Few People Have Figured It Out
People need to have mentors or apprenticeships. That's how you learn. If you want to learn to build a house, go work with a contractor who has been doing it 40 years. Get your damn hammer and go do it.
If you want to learn how to live life find somebody who's lived life the way you want to live it and follow their recipe. People are completely lost.
That's why I partnered up with Sam Ovens and we're hosting this webinar on how to get paid teaching what you already know. If I ever had to start all over from scratch, this is exactly the business idea I would use to make money.
But anyway I was saying when I was talking about the education system, there is a way. There is a solution. You have to take back what should have been given you.
I'm talking about your birthright? There's a birthright that we should all have by the time we are 18.
Love is sending your kids into the world with the major foundational life skills mastered and practice for 10 years.
My mentor, Joel Salatin- I remember when I went to his farm and Daniel his son was 12 years old.
At just 12 years old, Joel had pretty much taught him how to do marketing, how to build a business, how to take care of animals, how to be responsible, how to avoid procrastination, how to work hard, how to have a work ethic, how to be sincere. He taught him a little bit about psychology, a little bit about negotiating deals.
By the time Daniel was 18 years old he was managing his own business. He started at 10 or 12 years old. What do kids now know at 18? What did I know at 18?
Nothing.
For those of you reading this, of any age, you can decide to stop being a ghost on planet Earth. You can decide to take back what should have been yours from all the parents, teachers and grandparents that said they loved you. They did their best, but they didn't do a great job. Now it falls upon you and I to take it upon our own shoulders.
Don't be confused by life.
That's the number one thing I tell myself. Stop being confused. Really.
If you dated a girl and it was a nasty relationship. You need to understand psychology. Maybe you were avoidant and maybe she was anxious. Maybe you had a high attachment style that scientists have studied for many years which predicts the pain that you had. Which means you could have prevented it.
Anything predictable can be prevented.
If you don't have any money in your bank account and you're continually stressed.
1. Do you know how to invest money?
2. Do you understand what a debenture is?
3. Do you understand the difference between
debt and equity?
4. Do you understand what
how an IPO works?
5. Do you how an ICO works?
6. Do you understand valuations?
7. Do you understand intrinsic value?
8. Do you understand how to discount the future
value of money into a present-day lump
sum?
If you don't know any those things of course you'll be broke.
Ask Questions
Ask yourself: "I didn't learn them. How do I learn them?"
If you do this, the cycle will begin to reverse itself.
Do you work out for 45 minutes to an hour a day? If you don't, you will have health problems. Dr. Kim just told me four things you can do that have the same potency as pharmaceutical drugs.
Number one is sleep.
People sleep five hours and they can't figure out why they're anxious or on medication while their body's degrading. Dr. Kim says it's as powerful as cholesterol medications, statins and all this stuff. As powerful as you being on some major thyroid drugs. People are confused when they feel like they don't have any energy.
If you don't sleep well, maybe it's because you have your iPad and your TV on in your room. Have you studied how the brain works with light into your eyes once the sun goes down? We're built to go to sleep. You have to wear blue blocker glasses at night because they block the blue light which stimulates your different parts your brain to keep you awake.
Well, no wonder you can't sleep. Turn the lights off. Use candles and you'll go to bed a lot earlier, but people will look at me like oh that's weird Tai. You know what's weird?
Sleeping five hours and your body starts degrading. You should have energy.
Energy's the most correlated thing, by the way, with making money.
For those of you who follow me for business tips, every person I've ever seen that makes money, I've met, has a ton of energy.
Sleep more.
Don't listen to these people: "You sleep when you're dead." Yeah, you're gonna definitely going to bring death. You're gonna bring the Grim Reaper a little faster.
Don't be confused. I'm not confused anymore.
I still have a hard time fixing everything, but at least now I know why I am like I am. And I know why-- it all makes sense.
It all makes sense. You can self-enlighten. You can teach yourself. When I say you teach yourself, don't get confused.
Charlie Munger said "The prescription for misery is learning everything yourself, by your own experience,and ignoring the wisdom of other people."
Warren Buffett says: “It's good to learn from your mistakes. It's better to learn from other people's mistakes.”
I take in the wisdom of Dr. Kim, okay. This guy says stem cells is gonna be powerful. I need to look into stem cells. He says increase sleep. Most people need eight and a half hours.
Okay, boom, and I take him at his word.
If you want to be miserable, you'll subconsciously be like, "I'm gonna do 20 years without enough sleep and see how it affects me."
They already did those tests, bro.
They already did those tests.
They kill the rats, the kill the animals; they die young.
They already studied how much money you should make.
Everyone reading this, if you live in the western world, the United States, you should be making at least six grand a month. They already studied this, they've figured it out. You will not be happy making three to four grand for the average person.
Maybe if you live in another country with a lower cost of living.
I got good news and bad news. I'm gonna end on this.
The good news is that most of life's been figured out, if you seek.
As Jesus Christ said, whether you're religious or not, "Seek and you will find, ask and you will receive. Knock and the door will be opened unto you."
You go ask, seek, enough smart people, patterns emerge. You begin to see patterns.
Instead of somebody who's like, "I don't know why bad things happen to me."
Bad things will still happen to you, but you can lower the rate of these bad rates.
I have to tell myself, "Tai, don't be confused, don't be confused. It all makes sense."
But it's up to me to be willing to see the truth. It's like the matrix. Most people took the wrong pill, so they're blind.
Don't Be Afraid Of The Truth
Just like Plato said in probably the most famous allegory/fable, of all time, The Cave...
Most people are in the back of the cave, he said, and they're sitting around a fire in a dark cave and they look and they see shadows on the wall and they go, "Oh, that's reality. That's what humans look like."
But he said you're only seeing the reflection of shadows on the wall. And
he said once in a while somebody walks to the edge of the cave where the sunlight and they go, "Oh, it's too bright. I don't want to see the truth." And they go back, darkness, into the cave. And that's how we live in our world now. Where people can see the light.
You have Google, you have YouTube, you have books can be delivered to your door by a drone by Amazon. We're still too lazy to read books.
My grandma had to go in a horse and buggy to a random bookstore that was 100 miles away. It was a day-long trip to buy one book, and a book cost your whole month's wages or whatever, your whole week's wages.
Now you can get used books on Amazon for a dollar. I'm like do you read books about how to make money? Because you're complaining to me about money.
"Nah, do those exist, Tai?"
smh
I'm worried about us humans. I'm telling you.
If we're not careful, we will all be off this planet. We will all blow ourselves off the planet one way or another. If you don't believe that will happen, you should read the book "Collapse" by the Pulitzer Prize UCLA professor, Jared Diamond.
He showed over and over where humans have wiped themselves off that particular part of the planet. Easter Island, off Chile. They destroyed themselves. Lots of civilizations destroy themselves. There's parts of Europe, destroy themselves. There's some parts of Kazakhstan, things like that, where Genghis Khan went.
Look at India. India has tremendous environmental degradation. China, too. Whole rivers. There's places in India, China, and there's places in America, too. Just wiped ourselves out. Look at where there was the Chernobyl in Russia. The nuclear devastation.
Dude, they were growing frogs with four heads there. People's cancer rates, ten times higher. That was like 50 years ago and people still dying from it.
Step Your Game Up In 2018
So, I caution myself: get your game up, get your open-mindedness up, get your education up, or we will blow ourselves off the planet one way or another.
Elon Musk ain't gonna save us. I love Elon Musk, but one man alone ain't gonna save us.
As the philosopher said, let everyone sweep their own front porch and the whole world will be clean.
I gotta learn how to break the cycle. It's on me. You think my dad cares? He didn't care.
If he would've cared that much about his kids, he would've broken the cycle so his kids never were exposed to it, but he didn't.
I'll end with this, if you're ever surprised that a politician does something wrong, you are a fool and you don't understand how the world works.
People who seek power, massively, generally have high narcissism, high machiavellianism, and high psychopathy.
So, when I hear stories about, "Tai, you ain't gonna believe this. There was a scandal! Somebody ran for president or prime minister, and you're not gonna believe this, Tai. They were doing it for selfish intentions."
Really! I did not know that!
I've never read Julius Caesar. You think Julius Caesar was a wonderful man, Genghis Khan was a wonderful man? People who seek out power are a little kooky. They ain't no saints up in high, powerful places.
Occasionally, occasionally. And when I say occasionally, we're talking every century or two.
My grandma saw Adolf Hitler get out of a car, stand up right in front of her, and start yelling and preaching on the streets.
I said, "Grandma, what'd you think of him?" She said, "Oh, I knew he was crazy right away."
See, my grandma had her head screwed on straight. She just saw her 100th New Year's Day.
We need to go back to whatever my grandma's education was, where she just saw Adolf Hitler and was like, "I ain't voting for that guy," and she left Germany and got in a boat and came to America.
She says the greatest day of her life was seeing the Statue of Liberty. America could be great, but ... I don't know, when we're too soft, maybe we got too much freedom.
Maybe we got so much freedom, we don't know what to do with ourselves. Something's wrong.
I'm part of the problem, so I'm not preaching. I'm just telling you, gods are laughing at me, too. Make no mistake, the gods look down like, "Ugh, look at this Tai guy. He thinks he knows a lot with books, aha! He still don't know."
Every year of my life I get older, I'm like, "Last year I thought I knew a lot." And then I look back and I'm like I didn't know jack.
So I'm wondering when that cycle stops. Maybe we'll just die and the last year of your life you'll look back and you're like actually none of these years I really understood anything.
That's why science is important, but not the science that people think of test tubes.
Study your life. Do little experiments on people. Do experiments with people you're dating, friends.
Don't be afraid to test everything. Open-mindedness.
Travel the world, look for patterns. The world will begin to open up and reveal itself to you.
And for those of you who don't want to do it, like Mr. T said in Rocky where they asked him, "What do you predict will happen in this fight?" Mr. T said, "I predict pain." Haha.
Sometimes I look at my life, I look back and I'm like, "Tai, what was the prediction for the things you did and thought, and your thought patterns at that point?"
"At 20 years old, the way you thought, what was gonna happen to you at 21?"
Oh, I predict pain. Stupidity. Loss of money. Betrayal by people. Heartache. Depression, pain, fear. Sleepless nights.
I wish I could go back, 19, and play this video for myself.
Maybe all these videos that I do are some kind of time capsule.
But I don't know how to go back in time. If any of you have that formula, you'll be very rich.
Anyway, signing off. Like I said, hopefully it wasn't too rough.
Stay Strong,
Tai
I take in the wisdom of Dr. Kim, okay. This guy says stem cells is gonna be powerful. I need to look into stem cells. He says increase sleep. Most people need eight and a half hours.
Okay, boom, and I take him at his word.
If you want to be miserable, you'll subconsciously be like, "I'm gonna do 20 years without enough sleep and see how it affects me."
They already did those tests, bro.
They already did those tests.
They kill the rats, the kill the animals; they die young.
They already studied how much money you should make.
Everyone reading this, if you live in the western world, the United States, you should be making at least six grand a month. They already studied this, they've figured it out. You will not be happy making three to four grand for the average person.
Maybe if you live in another country with a lower cost of living.
I got good news and bad news. I'm gonna end on this.
The good news is that most of life's been figured out, if you seek.
As Jesus Christ said, whether you're religious or not, "Seek and you will find, ask and you will receive. Knock and the door will be opened unto you."
You go ask, seek, enough smart people, patterns emerge. You begin to see patterns.
Instead of somebody who's like, "I don't know why bad things happen to me."
Bad things will still happen to you, but you can lower the rate of these bad rates.
I have to tell myself, "Tai, don't be confused, don't be confused. It all makes sense."
But it's up to me to be willing to see the truth. It's like the matrix. Most people took the wrong pill, so they're blind.
Don't Be Afraid Of The Truth
Just like Plato said in probably the most famous allegory/fable, of all time, The Cave...
Most people are in the back of the cave, he said, and they're sitting around a fire in a dark cave and they look and they see shadows on the wall and they go, "Oh, that's reality. That's what humans look like."
But he said you're only seeing the reflection of shadows on the wall. And
he said once in a while somebody walks to the edge of the cave where the sunlight and they go, "Oh, it's too bright. I don't want to see the truth." And they go back, darkness, into the cave. And that's how we live in our world now. Where people can see the light.
You have Google, you have YouTube, you have books can be delivered to your door by a drone by Amazon. We're still too lazy to read books.
My grandma had to go in a horse and buggy to a random bookstore that was 100 miles away. It was a day-long trip to buy one book, and a book cost your whole month's wages or whatever, your whole week's wages.
Now you can get used books on Amazon for a dollar. I'm like do you read books about how to make money? Because you're complaining to me about money.
"Nah, do those exist, Tai?"
smh
I'm worried about us humans. I'm telling you.
If we're not careful, we will all be off this planet. We will all blow ourselves off the planet one way or another. If you don't believe that will happen, you should read the book "Collapse" by the Pulitzer Prize UCLA professor, Jared Diamond.
He showed over and over where humans have wiped themselves off that particular part of the planet. Easter Island, off Chile. They destroyed themselves. Lots of civilizations destroy themselves. There's parts of Europe, destroy themselves. There's some parts of Kazakhstan, things like that, where Genghis Khan went.
Look at India. India has tremendous environmental degradation. China, too. Whole rivers. There's places in India, China, and there's places in America, too. Just wiped ourselves out. Look at where there was the Chernobyl in Russia. The nuclear devastation.
Dude, they were growing frogs with four heads there. People's cancer rates, ten times higher. That was like 50 years ago and people still dying from it.
Step Your Game Up In 2018
So, I caution myself: get your game up, get your open-mindedness up, get your education up, or we will blow ourselves off the planet one way or another.
Elon Musk ain't gonna save us. I love Elon Musk, but one man alone ain't gonna save us.
As the philosopher said, let everyone sweep their own front porch and the whole world will be clean.
I gotta learn how to break the cycle. It's on me. You think my dad cares? He didn't care.
If he would've cared that much about his kids, he would've broken the cycle so his kids never were exposed to it, but he didn't.
I'll end with this, if you're ever surprised that a politician does something wrong, you are a fool and you don't understand how the world works.
People who seek power, massively, generally have high narcissism, high machiavellianism, and high psychopathy.
So, when I hear stories about, "Tai, you ain't gonna believe this. There was a scandal! Somebody ran for president or prime minister, and you're not gonna believe this, Tai. They were doing it for selfish intentions."
Really! I did not know that!
I've never read Julius Caesar. You think Julius Caesar was a wonderful man, Genghis Khan was a wonderful man? People who seek out power are a little kooky. They ain't no saints up in high, powerful places.
Occasionally, occasionally. And when I say occasionally, we're talking every century or two.
My grandma saw Adolf Hitler get out of a car, stand up right in front of her, and start yelling and preaching on the streets.
I said, "Grandma, what'd you think of him?" She said, "Oh, I knew he was crazy right away."
See, my grandma had her head screwed on straight. She just saw her 100th New Year's Day.
We need to go back to whatever my grandma's education was, where she just saw Adolf Hitler and was like, "I ain't voting for that guy," and she left Germany and got in a boat and came to America.
She says the greatest day of her life was seeing the Statue of Liberty. America could be great, but ... I don't know, when we're too soft, maybe we got too much freedom.
Maybe we got so much freedom, we don't know what to do with ourselves. Something's wrong.
I'm part of the problem, so I'm not preaching. I'm just telling you, gods are laughing at me, too. Make no mistake, the gods look down like, "Ugh, look at this Tai guy. He thinks he knows a lot with books, aha! He still don't know."
Every year of my life I get older, I'm like, "Last year I thought I knew a lot." And then I look back and I'm like I didn't know jack.
So I'm wondering when that cycle stops. Maybe we'll just die and the last year of your life you'll look back and you're like actually none of these years I really understood anything.
That's why science is important, but not the science that people think of test tubes.
Study your life. Do little experiments on people. Do experiments with people you're dating, friends.
Don't be afraid to test everything. Open-mindedness.
Travel the world, look for patterns. The world will begin to open up and reveal itself to you.
And for those of you who don't want to do it, like Mr. T said in Rocky where they asked him, "What do you predict will happen in this fight?" Mr. T said, "I predict pain." Haha.
Sometimes I look at my life, I look back and I'm like, "Tai, what was the prediction for the things you did and thought, and your thought patterns at that point?"
"At 20 years old, the way you thought, what was gonna happen to you at 21?"
Oh, I predict pain. Stupidity. Loss of money. Betrayal by people. Heartache. Depression, pain, fear. Sleepless nights.
I wish I could go back, 19, and play this video for myself.
Maybe all these videos that I do are some kind of time capsule.
But I don't know how to go back in time. If any of you have that formula, you'll be very rich.
Anyway, signing off. Like I said, hopefully it wasn't too rough.
Stay Strong,
Tai
From an email in Jan 2018
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